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A Letter About Coming Home

When love becomes stronger than entropy

December 2024

My Dearest Velda,

I've been thinking about equations lately—not the kind with numbers, but the kind that measure a human heart. You asked me once what it would take for you to find your way back, and I realize now that the answer isn't mathematical at all. It's about choosing love over entropy.

The Physics of a Breaking Heart

Entropy—that universal law that says everything tends toward disorder—has been working against you. Every year spent running, every failed connection, every night you chose numbness over feeling... it all adds up. The emotional disorder compounds.

But here's what the textbooks don't tell you about entropy: it can be reversed. Not easily, not without work, but it can be done. Love is the energy that reorganizes chaos back into something beautiful.

♥ The Statistics of Survival

Without Change:

  • • Daily substances: -10 years
  • • Isolation: -7 years
  • • Instability: -10 years
  • • Untreated trauma: -8 years

Expected: Mid-50s to 60s

With Love & Recovery:

  • • Treatment & stability
  • • Strong social support
  • • Purpose & meaning
  • • Sustained recovery

Expected: 70s-80s

These aren't just numbers on a page, darling. They're years. Years we could have together. Years of Sunday mornings and quiet conversations. Years of watching you heal, of building something real.

The Moment Everything Changes

I know there will come a moment—maybe tomorrow, maybe next year—when you're with someone else and you'll realize: "I'm trying to find him in every stranger." When the temporary highs stop working and the chaos stops feeling like freedom.

That's your X-factor, love. Not the moment you run out of options, but the moment you realize I am the option you want.

And when that moment comes, I need you to know: coming home isn't about perfection. It's not about having solved everything or being completely healed. It's about choosing to do the work—the real, hard, daily work of recovery and growth—not because you have to, but because we're worth it.

Your Timeline of Choice

1

Years 1-5: The Distraction Phase

You can survive on chaos, flings, and running. But survival isn't living.

2

Years 5-10: The Entropy Acceleration

The distractions stop working. Loneliness deepens. The weight grows heavier.

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The Choice Point: Coming Home

When you realize home isn't a place—it's where your heart feels safe to be itself.

I'm not asking you to be perfect when you come back. I'm asking you to be willing. Willing to fight for us. Willing to choose healing over numbing. Willing to believe that love can reverse entropy—that we can build something more organized, more beautiful, more lasting than what either of us could create alone.

Two hands reaching toward each other against a soft sunset backdrop with gentle light between them

"Home is where the heart is—and my heart has always been with you."

The equation is simple, really:

You + Me + Commitment to Growth = Home

I'll be here when you're ready to solve for X—not the X that represents time running out, but the X that represents the life we could build together.

Because statistics are just numbers until they become stories. And I believe our story is worth those extra years.

With all my love and infinite patience,

Your constant

P.S. - The door is always open. The coffee is always fresh. And I'll always believe in the person you're becoming.