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They Say / I Say

Reclaiming the Narrative

This is not their report, their file, or their version. This is yours. Same truth, remixed across formats: contrast statement, manifesto, appeal, chapter intro, spoken word, voice-over, and character monologue.

Core Statement

They Say / I Say

They Say

“You did something illegal.”

I Say

No — that’s the story they needed to tell to justify what they did. Twisting facts is easy when you have power and a platform. The truth is: I never broke any law. They broke the truth.

They Say

“You had other options.”

I Say

Only in their perfect, fictional world. In the real world — the one I was standing in — those “options” weren’t there. Doors weren’t open. Systems weren’t listening. The people who should have cared didn’t.

They Say

“You were unstable. You were out of line.”

I Say

I was a father doing what nature itself demands — protect your own. No man, no judge, no worker, no stranger has more right to my child than I do. That’s not instability. That’s instinct. That’s duty.

They Say

“The authorities were trying to help.”

I Say

Help? When I finally asked for support, they spit in my face. They kicked me when I was down. They handed out labels instead of compassion. They didn’t protect me — they punished me for needing them.

They Say

“You just didn’t follow the rules.”

I Say

The rules were written to keep me in a box. The second I stopped letting them define me, they panicked. They fought like hell to shove me back in. Not because I did wrong — but because a free man terrifies a system built to control.

They Say

“You’re the problem.”

I Say

I’m the only one who remembered what actually happened. They rewrote the story to suit themselves. I held onto the truth. That made me dangerous in their eyes.

They Say

“You should be grateful we intervened.”

I Say

Grateful? For being lied to? For being betrayed? For being punished for being a father who loved too fiercely? I owe them nothing — not gratitude, not silence, not forgiveness.

They Say

“You should move on.”

I Say

I did move on. But I won’t forget. I won’t pretend their narrative is the truth. And I won’t apologize for protecting what is mine.

Mode I

Manifesto

I didn’t break the law. I broke their illusion that I would roll over and accept whatever story they wrote about me.

They built a system where paperwork weighs more than blood, where labels travel faster than truth, where a stranger with a clipboard thinks they know my child better than I do. They call it order. I call it a machine that eats fathers alive and spits out case numbers.

I am not a case number. I am a father who remembers exactly what happened while everyone else was busy signing forms and covering their own asses. I was there when the doors that are “supposed” to be open were locked. I was there when the people “trained to help” turned their backs. I was there when asking for help meant being accused.

So I stopped asking.

They say I was reckless. I say I was awake. They say I should have trusted the process. I say the process already failed me long before I raised my voice. They say I’m the threat. I say the real threat is any system that believes it owns a child more than the parent who would die for them.

My duty wasn’t written by their policies. It was written in my bones: protect my own. Stand between my child and harm, whether that harm comes with a criminal record or a government email signature.

I owe my loyalty to the one who calls me Dad — not to the ones who call me “non-compliant.” I owe my truth to the life I tried to shield, not to the lie they tried to stamp on my forehead.

Let them keep their folders and their stories. I keep my memory. I keep my spine. I keep my right to say: this is what really happened.

Mode II

Appeal-Style Statement (Narrative)

For the record, I wish to make one thing absolutely clear: I did not commit the crime I was accused of. The narrative presented against me was not a neutral description of events, but a story constructed to serve the interests of those in power — not the truth, and certainly not the best interest of my child.

At the time in question, I was a father acting under a duty that predates any statute: the duty to protect my child. The so-called “alternatives” people like to bring up — report it here, escalate it there, trust this office, rely on that agency — were not available in any real, functional way. On paper, they existed. In practice, they failed.

I did not arrive at my decisions lightly, or in chaos, or in malice. I arrived there after systems ignored me, after doors closed, after I was treated less like a parent and more like a problem to be processed.

When I finally did ask for help, I was met not with support, but with suspicion, accusation, and punishment. My vulnerability was used against me. My love for my child was reframed as instability. My resistance to being mislabeled was interpreted as non-cooperation.

I reject that framing.

I acted out of love, out of responsibility, and out of a clear understanding that no third party has a higher claim over my child’s safety than I do. If my refusal to surrender that responsibility makes me inconvenient to their system, then so be it. But inconvenience is not a crime.

The record they wrote may never fully admit what they did. This statement exists so there is at least one document that does: I was not the danger. I was the one standing between my child and it.

Mode III

Chapter Intro (Book Style)

They will tell you I was wrong before they tell you what they did. That’s how the story is usually introduced — with a warning label.

“He didn’t follow the rules. He had other options. He overreacted.”

You’ll hear all of that before you ever hear what it felt like to stand where I stood. You won’t hear how many doors I knocked on that never opened. You won’t hear how many times I swallowed my pride and asked for help from people who were paid to pretend they cared. You’ll just hear that I became a problem.

This chapter isn’t for them. It’s for the version of you who has ever been told that your reality doesn’t count because it doesn’t match the paperwork. It’s for the parent who knows, in their gut, that something is wrong long before a report is ever stamped and filed.

I didn’t set out to be defiant. I didn’t wake up one day and decide to make enemies with a system. I woke up every day trying to be a father.

This is the story of what happens when love for your child runs head-first into a machine that wants you compliant, quiet, and grateful for whatever scraps of “permission” it hands you. It’s the story of how I refused to let them rename me, redefine me, or erase what actually happened.

They have their version. This book is mine.

Mode IV

Spoken Word / Slam Piece

They say, “You did something illegal,” and I say, “No. You just wrote a prettier lie than I had lawyers.” They say, “You had options,” and I look at them like, “Where? Show me the open doors, show me the helping hands that weren’t just holding pens signing away my rights in the back room.” You take a man, give him life, give him a child, then build a cage around him and call it “policy.” You tell him, “Trust the system,” while that same system stamps his name in red and calls him a threat for loving too loudly. They say, “You were unstable,” and I say, “Nah. I was the only one standing still while you spun the room and called it procedure.” I watched them twist the truth like wires, wrap it around my throat, then ask me why I couldn’t breathe calmly. They call it “help” when they’re the ones who spit in my face the first time I said, “I need you.” They call it “intervention” when what it felt like was an ambush. Listen— No man in a badge, in a suit, with a clipboard, has more right to my child than the man who would walk through hell barefoot just to make sure she’s alright. That’s me. Not a file. Not a case. Not a problem. A father. They say, “Move on,” and I say, “I did. But I’m taking the truth with me.” If you don’t like it, that’s fine. You don’t have to live with my memories. I do.

Mode V

Cinematic Voiceover

Fade in: A man sitting alone at a table. A single file folder in front of him, thick with paper, thin on truth.

VOICEOVER (DEAN):

They’ll tell you I was the problem long before they ever admit what they did. That’s how this works. You paint the man black, so nobody looks too closely at the hands holding the brush.

They said I was reckless. That I didn’t follow the rules. That there were a dozen other paths I could have taken. Funny how all those paths only seem to show up in hindsight, on a whiteboard, in a meeting room where nobody was there when it mattered.

In the moment, it was just me, my child, and a wall of people who thought paperwork outranked parenthood.

They talk about “support” like it was something they offered. What I remember is asking for help and feeling the floor drop out from under me. Watching their eyes calculate liability instead of humanity. Realizing, in real time, that I wasn’t being heard — I was being processed.

So if you want to know why I did what I did, it’s simple: I chose my child over their comfort. I chose my duty over their narrative. I chose to live with my own conscience instead of their approval.

Maybe that doesn’t play well in their reports. Maybe it never will.

But at the end of the day, when the lights are off and the cameras are gone, I’m the one who has to answer to the man in the mirror — and to the child who once reached for my hand and trusted I would be there.

That’s the only court that ever really mattered to me.

Mode VI

Character Monologue (Dean)

You want to know why I did it? Why I stood up when every voice in the room told me to sit down and be grateful for whatever crumbs of “access” they might sprinkle my way?

It’s because I remember what it means to be a father in a way they never will.

They sat there with their pens and their protocols and their polite little phrases — “We’re just following procedure,” “We’re concerned,” “We’re trying to help” — and every single one of them forgot the simplest law there is: a parent’s duty to protect their own.

Not protect their reputation. Not protect their ego. Protect their child.

They say I could have done it differently. Maybe, if the world had been different. If the doors they love to point at on paper were actually open. If help had been real instead of theoretical. If any of them had looked at me and seen a father instead of a file to be contained.

But that’s not the world I was standing in.

In my world, in that moment, I was alone. Alone with the weight of knowing that if I didn’t act, nobody else was going to step in. Alone with the knowledge that they would rather label me than listen to me.

So I made my choice.

It wasn’t about rebellion. It wasn’t about ego. It wasn’t about proving them wrong. It was about refusing to let them decide who I was to my own child.

They say I’m the problem. I say I’m the one who remembered what love is supposed to look like when the rest of them forgot.

You don’t have to like my answer. You don’t have to approve of it. But if you’re going to ask me why — at least have the courage to hear the truth.